How can I control my anger?
There was a boy who was in a very bad mood. He would get angry at every little thing.
One day, his father told him with a bag of nails, "Every time you get angry, hit a nail in the front wall."
Then the boy began to work wisely for his father.
On the first day, he nailed 50 nails. The next day, 40.
Every time he went to drive a nail, he felt remorse for being angry ো it was a challenge to drive a nail into the wall in anger!
Gradually, the boy realized that it was easier to control his anger than to drive a nail into the wall, and the number of nails he drove began to decrease.
Eventually, one day he never got angry again, and he felt the joy of it.
Now his father gave him another job, "If you don't get angry once a day, pull the nail out of the wall one by one."
Several days later, he removed all the nails.
This time his father took him to the wall and asked him what he could see.
The boy replied that he could see many holes in the wall.
Then his father said, "These holes are like all the scars you give to others when you are angry. Then no matter how many times you express grief, the scars never come up."
So I will suggest you two things:
- What has been said once cannot be brought back. Your anger hurts others and leaves an irritating impression that lasts forever.
- Whenever you get angry, "Hit a nail."
The easiest thing you can do is keep a small pocket diary. Every time you get angry, write a line in the diary.
Then at night you will count how many lines you wrote that day. If you make it a habit, you will remember to take note of it every time you get angry.
Indirectly, you realize that you are getting angry. And now that you are aware and aware, it will be easier for you to control your actions and control your anger.
I hope that the day will come soon when you will not have to write a single line in your diary.
